Two Common Elements that the Adults Neglect
Minjae Moon
Hearing the famous proverb that “The old cow thinks that she never was a calf” the adults should feel something from hearing this. It is undoubtedly true that the adults were once adolescence; however, some people seem to forget about the fact. So, the adults do not understand the young’s actions and attitudes which sometimes results in a conflict. In my opinion, if the mature people understand some characteristics of young, this problem can be easily solved. To avoid the battle both sides should work hard, but right now I will focus on the understanding about the young. To remind adults how adolescence feels, I came up with some points that the grown-up people should recognize when they are viewing the teens. The first thing is that the youth are the newcomers to the world, and second the young are drastically different from their parents; finally, the child is just adapting quickly to the changing.
The most critical notion the adults are missing is that the world is a new and curious place for the young people and because of this notion they need proper guidelines and profound patience from the adults. I am sure that the adults too have gone through this awful stage in their life. So, the adults will know how hard the world is, and the young need enough time to commit mistakes and learn from them. Then why do adults yell at their children just because they are not following the adults’ criteria and rules? Is there reason to be frustrated when the children are not meeting their expectation? Ironically, the adults are willing to offer help to the strangers from other areas even though the condition for strangers and children are fundamentally the same. They are both from the outer place, and they do not have great information about the field. Viewing from this point, the mistakes, foolish actions, and much confusion were somewhat natural phenomena to the young people. Therefore, the adults should understand that the children are not as friendly as the adults to the world.
Furthermore, the innate of the young can be far away from the parent’s uniqueness. The odd thing that the adults are committing is that they are forcing their children to match their characteristics. It is weird since it is the older people’s role to understand and fit the younger people’s condition. Some adults are acting against this crucial concept by emitting their anger to the children who are not matching the adults’ character. It is difficult to differentiate whether those people are adults or children when they are acting like this because it is like babies whining when they are in condition against their will. Hence, I suggest the adults recall the memory when they first observed the obscure site.
The last thing that I want to present is that young people are more likely to suit into the advanced trend much faster than the adults do. The adults, when they were young, would have felt that their parents are not following the newest fashion as quickly as them. Also, I am pretty sure that they committed to catching up the young when they get old and did not understand their parents. I could predict this by looking at the politicians. Many young and enthusiastic politicians enter the Congress with a mindset to make a better society for every people. After succeeding their goal, a majority of politicians change their mind to keep the current state and reject new ideas. This phenomenon can explain why the adults go through a hard time to accept the young’s behavior and trend. They do not want their comfort zone to become a fireplace by the newcomers who seem to be weaker than them. That is why they are suppressing the young when they are not following adults’ rules. I strongly encourage the adults to revive their initial mindset which was to become a proper adult, not a hater. Finally, it is essential for the adults to have the mentality as pure as a child to keep up with the young people.
These days, many collisions between the adults and young are happening and solving this problem both parties should work their best to understand each other. I do know that there are some parts which the young should get aware and try their best to fix them. As a student, I thought about what the adults do not remember from the past when they were young. The adults have to welcome the idea that the young are fresh people to the world, and they have their unique trait; lastly, they are working hard to make their world with their trends. Remembering these aspects of the young, the adults will have better chance to interact well with the young because the young will think that they are considering about them. As a result, the young will also try to feel the difference and fill that gap which will conclude to the fantastic world with healthy relationships.
